I'd work up until I went into labor, or some other circumstance made it impossible to do so any longer. I'd have a hospital delivery with my OB delivering Noah, my mom and dad in the room with me, Chad waiting close by, I'd take an epidural, I wouldn't need an induction or any other drug-related help. Labor may be difficult, possibly long since it's my first child, but overall a pretty positive experience and vaginal delivery. I knew I really really didn't want a C-section, I really didn't want to be induced, I really didn't want to use pitocin. These were wants, but I always maintained that depending on the circumstances whatever needed to be done to ensure a safe delivery and healthy baby would be fine.
What I'm thinking about now:
Still planning on working up until my water breaks unless instructed otherwise. Still have a hospital delivery with my OB delivering Noah. If the situation allows for it then having my mom and dad in the room with me, Chad waiting close-by. Except now I'm thinking about the fact that my parents are 13 hours away-hopefully everything will go as planned and they'll be there, but they might not be. Chad's parents are several hours away so same situation with them, and Chad no matter how bad he may want to be in the room with me feels very certain that he wont be able to due to the fact that he does not physically handle hospitals, blood, etc well. (think nausea and fainting) SO, basically I am risking not having a family member with me or anyone I feel comfortable with to help me through labor/delivery. I still think I'd like as little pain as is possible during child birth, but now I'm worry about being completely numb. What if the epidural affects me weirdly, what if I'm too disoriented to enjoy the beauty of the experience, what if I'm sick from the medicine? I want a vaginal delivery, but what if something goes wrong, am I willing to allow a c-section without a second thought? What if my doctor says I need to be induced? She told us upfront that she uses Pitocin with inductions, am I going to be ok letting that happen?
Things I'm looking into at this point:
A Doula. I'm super busy- I work a full week, so does Chad. I work every other Saturday and observe the Sabbath on Sundays. That leaves me 2 Saturdays a month to tour the hospital, go to birthing classes, nursing classes, check out day cares, etc. All of that is not going to be feasible between now and September 2nd. With a Doula I could have someone to call any time any day, who can present me with all of the options, information, and give me an unbiased education on certain things so that I can make an informed decision. I can have someone in the room with me that has no other interest than my comfort and my wishes being executed and it wouldn't be a family member that I may be inclined to flip out on (you tend to be harsher to those closer to you in times of stress). Also she can make sure my wishes are executed without the passion/risk of losing their temper with the doctors or nurses that my mom or dad might succumb to seeing their daughter stressed out or in pain. With a Doula I could get birthing instruction on my own time, and one on one nursing lessons.
I have never in my life thought I'd consider a natural birth, but is the potential of such great pain during a possibly long labor and delivery worth it to be "present" for the experience. These are things I'm contemplating. I still have no idea. My husband says I in no way would be ok during a natural delivery. Maybe not. Do I have time to dedicate to a birthing plan, meditation, hypnosis and calming music that is necessary to maintain pain during a natural birth? Who knows. Am I seriously even having this conversation with myself? I can't decide if I need to get a grip and stop being such a hippie or if I am finally on the right track of thinking. I do know I don't want any unnecessary medication, and would never opt for a c-section or induction just to limit pain or speed things up.
At this point, I'm going to get a library card and start watching some videos, and continue to read anything and everything I can find and that people send me. I'm also going to call my OB to chat a bit. She hasn't spent any time with me and does not know me as a person at all. This is not necessarily her fault, though, I'm sure if I ever voiced this opinion or posed any of these questions to her she would be more than available to me- which is what I'm hoping she'll say when I call this week.
All of you mommies out there, I'd love to hear your experiences, opinions, and get some references from you! A big disclaimer, though....no unneeded negativity. I want to know your experiences and opinions, but I want them so I can make my own decisions. So please know that I want to here your bad and good information but I don't want to hear that I'm stupid if I do/don't do it the way that worked for you. With that being said- comment, email, message me with anything you think I should know! I'm all ears! Love, Layne